...from acting like a plain vanilla MCP to acting like a creepy MCP.
Showing posts with label HotCopper Moderator. Show all posts
Showing posts with label HotCopper Moderator. Show all posts
Monday, April 1, 2013
Digging in ...
MobyT | 3:18 PM Feel free to comment!
And he furiously proceeded to dig a much deeper hole for himself ...
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
The Men's Playground
MobyT | 10:06 PM Feel free to comment!Note: This was originally posted as a blog page rather than a blog post. It is preserved here, with all comments.
Sou (aka MobyT) - April 2015.
Women are not welcome on HotCopper (unless they know their 'place')
I was intrigued to find there is a still a sizeable sub-culture of sexist creatures of the male sex alive and well who hobnob on the internet. Unlike the men I mix and work with, these are not successful men comfortable with themselves. They act as if they have to put women down or worse, as in this case, bully them and deny them access to goods and services, in order to make themselves feel any sense of self worth.
Misogynists made welcome at HotCopper
Earlier this year (2012) I was banned from the share trading discussion board, HotCopper, because I sent a private message to the moderators and made a subsequent complaint. HotCopper is a commercial business that boasts of being "Australia's largest stock trading and investor internet discussion forum with over 170,000 active members."My private message to the moderators was along the lines that calling women paranoid, schizophrenic and deserving of death could be viewed by some people (not all, obviously) as a tad sexist and misogynistic.
Here is one of the posts to which I was referring - a hateful post about a women who died after childbirth. Good riddance, he writes, arrogant, self-interested, dangerous, mentally misfiring, dysfunctional.
Source (subs req'd): HotCopper.com
Thing is, the reason I wrote to the mods was because they deleted some posts that followed the hate posts made by thalweg (or acreage1 as he was then). I was explaining that some of us thought his posts were over the top and figured if any posts should have been removed from the thread, his would have been at the top of the list. The mods disagreed as we shall see.
Forum management chose not to remove thalweg's revolting misogynistic posts. They either agreed with them or they decided it was 'free speech'. The moderators decided the six or so posts saying they didn't much appreciate sexist attitudes, particularly like that shown by thalweg, did not constitute "free speech" and must be deleted because they offended people who hold attitudes like thalweg. (As an aside, most of thalweg's posts are along these lines. Yet he has never been suspended even for a day!)
In what universe is it sexist to point out hateful sexism? Only in the alternate (sexist) reality of HotCopper
After I saw all the polite posts deleted (one from me and some from other people) as well as my one narky post, I sent the private message to the moderators (TOU) alerting them to thalweg's three disgusting posts, assuming they hadn't noticed them even though they'd been up for hours.The reaction was instantaneous and vicious. But it wasn't thalweg's posts they reacted to, it was the fact that a mere woman would dare to say they were offensive. I was immediately suspended from the forum for an entire month (most suspensions are for a day or two) and told that it was I who was being sexist. Thalweg's posts were given the mod's blessing and allowed to remain.
Mods and management, who often moan about the death of 'free speech', decided to stop me from 'speaking' altogether. Free speech to extreme conservatives apparently only applies to speeches they like to hear. (Consider the Australian's editorial of 11 December 2012 seeking freedom to 'offend' while it has tried to stifle freedom of speech in the past.)
(Several hours later another moderator removed one of the three hate posts made by thalweg - but left the other two. They didn't make any apology to the other people whose posts the mods deleted. And they still insisted that it was me being sexist for suggesting thalweg's post was offensive.)
Because I was simply following the written forum guidelines when I sent the private message to the moderators, I naturally queried the ban. It seemed strange to be banned for following the rules. This is the what I got in reply (head vice mandatory):
Allow me to say now what I didn't say back then, with apologies to Rebecca West:
"...I only know that I'm called sexist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat..."(HotCopperites will also be roaring with laughter at the thought that the General Manager of HotCopper regards any of his forums as 'academic'!!! His Science and Medicine forum, which is where I used to post a lot, is appropriately called the S&M forum by HotCopperites. Management has made sure that it's dominated by the scientific illiterati. These 'proud-to-be-ignorant' science bashers, with the blessing of the forum moderators and management, defame scientists and turn any discussion about science or medicine into the latest paranoid conspiracy theory - straight from infowars. As for the forum he said I'm too 'outspoken' to post in, click here and scroll to the bottom of the page to see the standard to which HotCopper management aspires!)
It gets worse! HotCopper suggests women pretend to be men to play in their 'Men's Playground'
It gets even worse. I began to wonder if I was still living in 2012 or if I'd somehow got caught up in Dr Who's Tardis and flung back in time. This is what I was told by a female HotCopper employee, who obviously knows her place in that male domain or she would have taken action. Here is part of her email to me (my bold, admin's capitals):I understand the make up of the forum and the bias at times. However, we have some really excellent female posters. Many don't EVER say they are female and have become very good at playing in the men's playground. I just know some are female, but remain quiet. Often it's harder once people say they are male or female, and being an anonymous forum poster has great merit.She's suggesting I not let on I'm female and pretend to be a man to post on HotCopper? And the Men's Playground? What the hell is that? Men I mix with aren't overtly sexist and don't consider their world a 'men's playground'. About the only 'men's playgrounds' allowed in Australia, as far as I know, are some of the archaic Men's Clubs and the Catholic Church - and even the latter tolerates women (often very reluctantly) in many spheres of activity. No business as far as I'm aware is allowed to discriminate on the grounds of sex as suggested by HotCopper admin.
Gabby has a brilliant cartoon which is a wonderful illustration of sexist male 'group think'.
Bullies are such slinking cowards
I subsequently lodged a complaint with the Human Rights Commission. HotCopper immediately banned me permanently - which is arguably in direct contravention of the Sex Discrimination Act, which prohibits victimisation for making a complaint to the Commission. The General Manager refused to engage with me in any conciliation process and refused to stop the victimisation.Cowardly behaviour typical of a bully - in this case a sexist bully.
It's a strange feeling to find out that I, this little old lady from the bush, caused these characters (HotCopper management and the moderation team) to quiver and quake in their boots to such an extent that not only have they denied me access to their service, but any post even mentioning me by my forum name (MobyT) is deleted. I have been told that anyone who mentions me is threatened with suspension*. I believe I am unique in that regard. There are threads on HotCopper not simply referring to other suspended posters by name, but discussing the merits or otherwise of their suspension.
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Why go public?
I thought hard before I made the complaint to the Human Rights Commission and, when HotCopper refused to engage with me in conciliation, I thought hard about writing about the experience.What prompted me to act?
Sure, the more primal feelings of anger and wanting some sort of revenge are mixed up in there somewhere. However the main reason I went to the HR Commission was because it was a case of 'if I let myself be treated like a doormat, how many other women will suffer'.
That same mix of reasons is why I started this blog. It's intended as a protest as well as a warning to others that there are still commercial businesses that demonstrate no regard for women or the law. After four years contributing to HotCopper, making more than 5,000 posts, and during which I put up with bullying, stalking and other harassment from right wing posters and moderators (as well as making lots of friends and getting numerous votes of appreciation from all sides of the spectrum), when I was banned because I followed their own rules I decided enough was enough.
(The other reason for going public is to set the record straight. The General Manager deliberately out of spite or ignorance falsely wrote on my HotCopper profile that I was suspended 'pending legal action'. I was not. (The Human Rights Commission is not a court of law.) At least one poster assumed I was the one who had done wrong (that legal action was being taken against me) and HotCopper did not disabuse him of that notion. I made a complaint of discrimination and then, because of the resulting suspension, added the complaint of victimisation.)
Businesses in the twenty first century should be a long way beyond discriminating against women. and at no time has it been acceptable for men to gang up the way they did to bully and try to intimidate. After all, this isn't some dinky little blog we're talking about. This is a commercial business that boasts how large it is (though only a tiny proportion are women, according to the general manager - and no wonder!)
Will the culture of HotCopper change? Will it become female friendly? Not while the current management is in place. Misogynists will always be misogynists. Sexist men will continue to consider women as second class. In my experience, owners/management of a business set the tone, appoint staff of similar persuasion to themselves (in this case moderators) and determine norms and culture.
You'd think sexism should have died out by now but it thrives in some quarters. Women need to speak up about it, not put up with it. Acting and speaking out won't change the attitudes of sexist bullies, but we may do enough to change their behaviour.
(I won't destroy the joint and that was never my intention. If more women speak up when bullied or when men treat them like dirt, the next generation will hopefully be better off.)
MobyT
December 2012
PS Apparently, as a result of my complaint, HotCopper has recently added 'sexist' to their list of TOU infringements in the drop down box
PPS In the comments, Ron correctly pointed out that some businesses have applied for and been given an exemption under the 'exemption' provisions of equal opportunity legislation. (He quoted Ferndale but I think he was probably referring to the Fernwood gyms because it is one of the few single sex businesses/clubs that allow women instead of barring them.) To be fair, I don't think Ron was suggesting that HotCopper should be granted an exemption. In any case, as far as I am aware HotCopper has never sought exemption under the Act to prevent women from subscribing and I strongly doubt that it would be successful if it were to try it on. (26 Dec 2012)
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Gabby's Cartoon
MobyT | 3:06 PM Feel free to comment!Note: This was originally posted as a blog page rather than a blog post. It is preserved here, with all comments.
Sou (aka MobyT) - April 2015.
This pretty much illustrates my experience on the HotCopper share trading discussion board (see here for more details). The 'f**k you' bit was enacted by the HotCopper moderator who quickly banned me for a month* because I alerted the moderators to sexist posts, telling me in no uncertain terms, in a kneejerk reaction typical of sexist slobs, that "it's you who are sexist (because you said a sexist post was sexist)"!
He had the full support of the HotCopper General Manager and reportedly all his fellow moderators - which is not surprising, since the nasty sexist tone of the forum has to come from the top. The General Manager decided that a person like me, being not only female (therefore I must be a feminazi) but having the temerity to express an opinion about sexism while in his "men's playground", is not welcome on his share trading discussion board. When I subsequently made a complaint (to the Human Rights Commission) he banned me completely and forever (as far as he is able). (Note: Victimisation is an offense under the Sex Discrimination Act in Australia but to my knowledge no-one has ever been prosecuted. At least one civil case alleging victimisation under the Act has been successful.)
I'm told by people who work in the Human Rights space that some places on the internet (such as HotCopper) are home to quite a few sexist slobs who stick together for support.
The cartoon is reprinted with written permission - thanks Gabby. Click here to visit the brilliant Gabby's Playhouse.
Perhaps it's a tad sexist to say of a woman who makes decisions about her own body that she has a "PC abnormal dysfunction", or that she demonstrates "simple, selfish, self interested, aggressive, indoctrinated behaviour" or that she is a "stupid and dangerous person" with a "mental misfire" or that it's good that she died ("good riddance") - unless of course you are a man on HotCopper discussion board.
Sexism is allowed because we say so - it's called free speech
All the HotCopper moderators rally together for support. They see that a couple of men have sent them TOUs complaining about a woman complaining about sexism (and ignore the men who agree with her, dismissing them as bleeding heart liberals). "That PROVES we are right to say she's the one being sexist", they say to themselves.Based on my experience the unwritten Terms of Use of HotCopper means it's not sexist to demean women, it's undoubtedly thought of as 'free speech'. It IS sexist to suggest that demeaning women is sexist (especially if you are a woman). That sort of outspokenness is not "free speech" and will not be tolerated. Your comments will be deleted immediately and you will be banned from posting any more. To imply a man has said something sexist is apparently COMPLETELY PROHIBITED under the "free speech" provisions of HotCopper, even or especially in a private message to moderators.
Sigh indeed :(
*Posters are typically banned for from one to seven days if they break the rules, offend another poster (a libertarian or conservative male) or offend the forum moderators. A ban of 30 days is extreme and very rare. It is reserved for repeat offenders of extreme behaviour - which was definitely not me.
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AnonymousDecember 23, 2012 at 10:49 AMYou got Real Problems. See you Doctor after Xmas.
You should not be let out at any time.
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annoy- mouse.. Guess this hits closer to the spot than you care to admit, eh?
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Wow. Those cartoons are fantastic. Spot on, and possibly explains/demonstrates the situations better than any set of words.
The Anonymous post immediately above demonstrates the nasty hivemind that's probably all too familiar to you and compelled you to do this blog.
I have also noticed, in many examples that also include a gaming forum for older people, that hatred of science extends to nastiness towards women, disabled, ethnic or basically anyone different or disagrees with their absolute truth. It all seems to hand in hand.
Crank Magnetism + Nasty? I'm not sure what it is. But thanks for your blog and hopefully, by looking at the diseased minds of the sexist cranks, we may see what motivates this mob. -
Good aren't they, Dave. Gabby's playhouse has other brilliant cartoons. The web versions should be for sale - I'd happily pay for them (at web prices).
Anonymous is typical. The level of tolerance is even less than the level of imagination and verbal sophistication on display :(
BTW - not a single moderator has ever apologised, proving the cartoon. The only person who showed any sign of it was the female administrator who I suspect is pretty junior. In any case she was so entrenched in the male group think that she blames women, suggesting women on HotCopper should pretend to be men to 'get along'! I wouldn't be surprised they think it's the woman's fault if she gets raped. -
AnonymousJanuary 29, 2013 at 10:08 PMWell done Moby T. I've been on that Hot Copper site myself and I was revolted by the chauvinist, bullying, oppressive nature of too many of the contributors and the mods. They didn't seem to like me too much either. Good luck with your complaint to the Human Rights Commission, it definitely was warranted. Ignore what the self-interested posters do or say to try to make you feel less than you obviously are. You've done well.
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AnonymousApril 27, 2013 at 5:20 AMI'm having a discussion about it as we speak but now look at it from my side
I (male) think that if women want to be equal (and I'd be happy if it was like that, I'm not sexist) they also have to take the disadvantages that men have.
1.) bills at a bar/pub/restaurant should be split
2.) if a lightbulb or something is broken it's not up to the man to fix it but to whoever sees it first, it's not that hard (well if the man is physically bigger there is an obvious exception in this example)
3.) a top manager CAN be a woman but has to be the most capable person. Man/woman/black/white/... I don't care but just because it's a man doesn't mean it's sexist.
4.) making the first move shouldn't be a mans task but for both (whoever is first)
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But the girl I'm chatting with right now doesn't agree and calls me sexist for saying I think equal means equal and not "equal while it's in my advantage". I dated her a few times and I always had to pay for everything because after all "you're the man!".
And let's be honest. That's also sexism.
Again I strongly agree that men and women should be equal but equal on ALL aspects.
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I don't disagree with any of that. Men and women want partners in life, not slaves or to be a slave. I'm surprised that even today there is an implicit assumption that a job would naturally go to a man unless there happened to be a woman who was better qualified. Too often when someone says "equal" they mean "equal on my terms". (Back when I was young it was rare to meet a man who would cook a meal, wash the dishes, or do the laundry - let alone one who would do any of those things without expecting thanks or praise. I'm hoping things are different now.)
(Some of the men I come across probably wouldn't know how to change a nappy, a light bulb, a car tyre or empty a dishwasher - going by their understanding of other subjects, like science :D)
As for dating etiquette, here's my guide for what it's worth - for men and women:
On the first date - the person who extends the invitation pays the bill (though it's not bad etiquette for the invitee to offer to share or pay for drinks).
On subsequent dates - if mutually agreed, share the bill (or at least discuss up front who will pay for what etc).
If you want to go to something special, decide before the invitation if you really want to go a) on your own; b) with someone else; or c) if you only want to go if you each pay your own way. Then you can decide how to raise the subject. Technically speaking for special events (not ordinary dates), the person who does the inviting pays the bill - unless agreed beforehand that you'll each pay your own way.
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Sadly great cartoons.
Common, and I don't really follow the why, in April 27's anonymous comment -- lumping minor private issues, like who asks whom for a date, with major societal ones, like who gets to be hired for jobs. And (not this anonymous, but also common) what they get paid for doing them.
The equation seems to be that women can't be managers, or paid the same, until the speaker is invited out on dates and she pays for it. I don't buy it. But, then, I speak from having had a mother who worked, and got paid less for it than the men doing the same job. Also as nephew of the winner in the case Grumbine v. USA. Where, in spite of a 1963 law on pay equality, my aunt was being paid less than her male counterparts -- in the 1980s. She spent a lot of her life being 'first woman', and that was also the case here. Anyhow, I take some comfort that in Grumbine v. USA, Grumbine won.
Perhaps the only time my mother ever spoke favorably about the unequal and rigid roles was regarding dating when she was growing up, though even then a rather limited sense. Namely, everybody had the same script about what they were 'supposed' to be doing. She didn't particularly like the script, or follow it overmuch, but that was a different matter. When everyone knows the same script, everyone can flag appropriately when they're going _off_ script (the guy who suggests going 'dutch', or the girl who asks a guy out, or ...). Made some things easier.
Getting back to science, concert orchestras, I've heard, did something that might be useful in science. Namely, they went to blind auditions -- the musicians playing from behind a curtain, so that it wasn't known to the judges who was playing when. Once this was done, the gender distribution started equilibrating much closer to even. Can't do that for senior scientists, as everyone knows who they are whether or not their name is on the paper. But that's less a bottleneck than early career, when those first few papers and grants are vital to continuing the career, and nobody except a handful of people working directly with the author knows their writing.-
Tell me about it, Robert.
Your aunt must be wonderful and did a great service for others.
When I first worked for the government back in the 1970s, any woman who married was automatically retrenched. If she was lucky, she could continue on as a temp worker, which was expected to stop when (yes, it was assumed 'when') she became pregnant. Women had no access to superannuation. That plus the systemic unequal pay for decades means that many women over 55 will be doing it tough till the day they die.
Decisions on hiring and firing in many science and engineering faculties of universities and scientific organisations were predominately made by men right up at least until the late 1990s and probably beyond. This is partly because staff freezes and reducing managerial levels coincided with EEO legislation. So the top positions were effectively 'frozen' with men in place, with all their systemic biases (often sub-conscious but not always).
On the plus side, being pretty well a "first woman" working in a male dominated sci-tech organisation I stood out and was noticed. Of course I had to do the job well to be appreciated - which I somehow managed okay :)
I hear that things are a lot better for younger women these days. But there is still a long way to go before everyone views women as fully fledged human beings and treats us as such :)
I like the idea of 'behind the curtain'. I know some people who used to send resumes etc using only their initials, hoping to at least make it to interview.
PS Sorry for the delay. Comments on older posts are modded as a spam deterrent.
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No news to you, of course.(And no worries on the speed -- you're faster than I often am).
Sounds like your setup in was even worse than we had here. Glad that it's opening up. But generations, unfortunately, is the time scale for the overhaul. A couple of stories, one less and one more science-relevant.
Less: When I was playing little league baseball, the very first girl (in the US) won her Supreme Court case to play. I was lousy (the all-star black hole of lousy), she was excellent (and nevertheless faced far more hostility than my grossly inept play). Come to when I'm coaching the 13 year old team my kid is on. There was only one girl in the league, and she was on my team. None of her teammates or opposing players batted an eyelash about it. The teammates did have some things to say about the fact that she was a weak player, same as they did about the other weak players. But that was all. A few of my generation said some things to me, weaker than were said to that first player, but still needlessly sexist, but shut up about it with speed when I answered. In another generation, fingers crossed, there'll only be maybe a few comments from the grandparents.
High school math shows a better progression. It was possible for girls to take the most advanced high school math class in my mother's generation, but she was one of only 2 who did so. In my generation, the class was about 1/3rd girls. For my kids, it was about 50%. These days, boys are the minority, at more like 40-45% (and dropping). I don't like that part about dropping below equality, but there are other issues at play as well.
Progress, but in generations rather than the years it could be. I've been astonished at the speed in the US of reversal on things like marriage equality. 2004, it was a successful fear campaign tactic, 2012 3 states voted it in by popular vote, and being against marriage equality is now something of a handicap.
Anyhow, of course my aunt is wonderful :-) I've since discovered, though, that employment law cases (which this was, and my wife of almost 7 years practices) are just brutal on the employee, even if they win in court.
One of these days, we'll get around to noticing that people are people and treating them as people. Not holding my breath, but do try to kick things in that direction. -
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hahaha more cartoon please thank you
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Yo, I want to ask you. Or any one else here. Why is it that you want to label yourself victims. Being harassed on the internet is not a uniquely female issue it is a peoples issue. Why is it that you need to label people based on only one aspect of their anatomy. This comic is effectively a contradiction of itself. the entire premise is a girl being butt hurt about comments on something she posted then being butt hurt about men being butt hurt that she mentioned she didn't like the comment. This comic is basically just a giant pity party there is no story and its not even smart or funny.
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AnonymousNovember 1, 2014 at 6:29 AMI never clicked over here since I'm always reading your climate posts...Sou this is f***ing brilliant! Nailed the issue right on the head!
Both me and my wife are grad students (she studies OA and I study sea ice motion, gasp! its a conspiracy!), and we've seen this attitude whenever she releases research publicly. Aside from the typical denier attacks, I've seen guys publicly post the nastiest misogynistic comments deriding her intelligence.
Another example is when we publicly spoke out against firearms on campus (only in the US do we have people stupid enough to suggest this, luckily more sober minds prevailed). She received a number of rape and death threats, that escalated to the point where people were doxxing her online.
It seems like there's a small minority of men who feel they have to yell down at women online to feel good about themselves. It's time for this bulls**t to stop.
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I am Ronsterm on HC. I wondered where you got to earlier this year. I didn't agree with you about many things but I appreciated the work you put in to your posts. I looked up your profile at the time and saw "legal action pending", but I didn't know who initiated it against whom. Mind you, as soon as the legals(or even threats of legals) start, it's gloves off as anyone would know, and I would have done the same as HC management did in those circumstances. I would guess you would too if you were on the receiving end of a legal threat.
The other day someone on S&M mentioned this site so I came for a look.
Seems a huge overreaction IMO, and as I said later to the lads, it looks quite sad you going to all this trouble because you were punted by HC.
This is what I said to Genericmicrobe:
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"Interesting further down the page though... Good old moby t (can we mention that name in china , oops I mean Australia?) rises again. Funny that, having a blog about a forum .... Having a good old whinge. Guess when it's too hot in the forum you can always cool down in a blogs spot love fest."
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Funny? Nah sad really that someone needs to set up a blog about an anonymous online life they once had. All that effort just to have a little girly whine. As I said, sad to see.
Had to laugh though she says that she got the name "Hotwhopper" from a "respected science contributor". Almost spat my coffee all over the screen when I read that .lol
cheers
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and to Birdman
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"Feel free to post a comment. Posts that are generally polite and on topic are welcome. I'll draw the line with abusive posts and persistent troll posts. (If you fear retribution from that site that merely pretends to like 'free speech', you can always post your comment anonymously or under another name.)
There is also a strict 'no spam' policy."
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In other words, she too merely pretends to have free speech, just that she gets to decide what "free speech" she likes. Disagree too much with her and you are instantly transformed into "abusive" bully" or "troll"m and out the door.
If Moby wants some lessons in free speech she should have a look at the Jo Abess site. Jo is still a silly little warmist living in a green fantasy world but she is a true believer and is very hardworking and does put her money where her mouth is and accepts all comments( and very few of them are complimentary).
I never minded Moby,she did put the effort in though I don't think she was as polite as she remembers herself to be. She was a bit sexist also.
cheers
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As I said, I don't remember you to have been as polite as you think you were. Not particularly rude, a bit snide sometimes but still an asset to HC overall for the quality of your posts and the number of them too.
Anyhow:
"I was intrigued to find there is a still a sizeable sub-culture of sexist creatures of the male sex alive and well who hobnob on the internet. Unlike the men I mix and work with, these are not successful men comfortable with themselves. They act as if they have to put women down or worse, as in this case, bully them and deny them access to goods and services, in order to make themselves feel any sense of self worth."
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I call bullshit on the above. You spent enough time on HC to have no time for mixing with "successful men comfortable in themselves" and even if you did there still remains the question of why did you hang around HC till you were booted out if it were so full of people that you despise. The answer is simply sour grapes. Old Aesop had most things nailed.That is the motivation for this site, sour grapes. True? No need to admit it to me when you know it yourself.You would still be there now if you were allowed, "sizeable sub-culture of sexist creatures of the male sex alive and well who hobnob on the internet" notwithstanding.
As to the main cause of your suspension, Thalwegs post. Why did you want that removed thus denying others the chance to make up their minds about the post and/or poster? I certainly would not seek to have any post removed or moderated and have never TOUed any post, nor have I ever put anyone on ignore. That sort of behaviour seems a bit precious to me, but that's just me. Thalwegs post was a little over the top, IMO, but it was just that, a post,an opinion and there's no reason to stop anyone expressing an opinion. Who gives a rat's about others opinions anyhow? I would not have moderated your post either, which is why I will never make it as a HC moderator lol
You also seem to have a few facts wrong. For a start "No business as far as I'm aware is allowed to discriminate on the grounds of sex as suggested by HotCopper admin."
Just off the top of my head, Ferndale women's only gyms.Can I expect to see you protesting against them too. If I could be bothered I'm sure I could track down many more such businesses.
Secondly, more bullshit "but any post even mentioning me by my forum name (MobyT) is deleted. I have been told that anyone who mentions me is threatened with suspension*."
Those posts above have been sitting in S&M for a couple of days now and nothing has come my way, no threats of suspension, no moderation even.
Thirdly "Sure, the more primal feelings of anger and wanting some sort of revenge are mixed up in there somewhere. However the main reason I went to the HR Commission was because it was a case of 'if I let myself be treated like a doormat, how many other women will suffer'. "
You are kidding yourself, Moby. You are simply hurt at the rejection and want to lash out but need to put an altruistic gloss on it lest this effort be seen as simply spite.
to be continued
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"Will the culture of HotCopper change? Will it become female friendly? Not while the current management is in place. Misogynists will always be misogynists. Sexist men will continue to consider women as second class. In my experience, owners/management of a business set the tone, appoint staff of similar persuasion to themselves (in this case moderators) and determine norms and culture."
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Why should it be "female friendly", whatever that means? It is what it is. I wouldn't expect the midwives forum to become more "male friendly" whatever that means nor would I expect the HotRod forum to be more attuned to yin energies. I realise that you would like to be fully accommodated (we all would, but life is not like that, so stop sounding like a petulant girl).
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"You'd think sexism should have died out by now but it thrives in some quarters. Women need to speak up about it, not put up with it. Acting and speaking out won't change the attitudes of sexist bullies, but we may do enough to change their behaviour."
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Are you talking sexism in general or just male sexism? Women are sexist too, you know. As you go on about sexism so much the phrase "methinks the lady doth protest too much" seems to fit. You focus on it so much that it appears that there is something else going on with you. You sound like a sexist bigot unable to accept the complexities of life and prefer a simple ideology of victimhood and oppressors to explain any failures and disappointments in your own life.
Anyhow, time to go. Don't take the above as deliberate insults(they aren't meant that way) but just giving it to you straight. If they offend you then it's just too bad, I'm sure you can handle it.
have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
Cheers Ron
Appreciate you taking the time to post and for your kind words about my posts, but you've missed the point.
(I've just got back from a christmas get together so bear with me.)
I didn't ask for thalweg's post to be deleted.
I'll repeat that because it's fundamental.
I did not ask for thalweg's post to be deleted.
What happened was that two of my posts and at least three of Kaya's posts in that thread were deleted.
One of my posts I didn't care that it was deleted - it was a sarcastic one. The other one of mine was replying to someone who asked me why I thought the other posts were sexist - and I politely explained why - but obviously enough people didn't like my explanation - and didn't like kaya's equally inoffensive posts so they tou'd them and got them deleted. So much for the 'free speech' they go on about!
All I did was send a tou explaining to the mods why I thought our posts shouldn't have been deleted, especially in the light of thalweg's three posts that were all much the same (women are psychotic etc).
For that I got slapped with an immediate 30 day suspension. Again - so much for 'free speech' or for following the rules.
Even you should agree that was a dumb reaction from whatever mod it was. (I suspect it was a rogue mod who stopped being a mod shortly after.) Still all the mods are equally to blame because not one of them did anything about it then or later. And they had plenty of time and opportunity to do so.
It was about nine hours later that someone else must have tou'd thalweg's post and one of the mods deleted one of them (but left the other two.)
I mean what I said elsewhere - I didn't find the s&m forum sexist (except maybe for Jim "piffle" Cross).
I really enjoyed reading different points of view on HC. I rarely sent tou's for that very reason.
I didn't mind the bagging I got, some of it was really funny (as intended and often when unintended!) - except maybe when poor old Hanrahan and a couple of others went a bit over the top and said I was a paid stooge or one period when I was stalked. (I must say you sound a bit the same when you think I can't have a life if I post on HC. Writing is a big part of how I earn a crust. It doesn't take long to write a para or two or three :D)
The general forum was another matter, though it's a bit better than it used to be. I didn't post there much anyway - and that's the one I was banned from.
As for my name not being mentioned - all posts mentioning me at the time were all deleted or 'disappeared' altogether - and I've been told at least one person was threatened with suspension if they mentioned me. The mods have apparently changed their tune now.
As for legal action - I didn't take any - and what HC did in the permanent suspension was arguably against the law as it's written quite specifically in the Act.
BTW - I've had quite a few people from HC telling me they think I've summed up the mods and management pretty well, so it's not just me.
I'm now having a bit of fun with the sillier posts on the S&M forum.
It's all water under the bridge and on the plus side, I've learnt a lot about the 'conservative brain' that I'd never have otherwise - lol.
Please send the guys on S&M my best regards. It's not them I took issue with, it's the mods and even more particularly the management.
All the best and post safely. Gotta run - heading out to another 'do'...
MobyT
Thanks for that reply. A rogue mod, eh? .They probably have a solidarity thing like cops or bureaucrats or parents even, never admit a mistake and support each other right or wrong in front of the public or kids, whatever the case may be.
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"(I must say you sound a bit the same when you think I can't have a life if I post on HC. Writing is a big part of how I earn a crust. It doesn't take long to write a para or two or three :D)"
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No , not a stalker here, too lazy........lol
As I said , a Merry Christmas( what remains of it) and a happy new year.
cheers Ron
Happy new year to you too.
Cheers, MT.
IMO it showed a contempt for women HC-ers and women in general and a contempt for the law and utter hypocrisy in regard to their constant wailing about loss of 'free speech'.
I wonder if it goes all the way to the ownership or if it's just the management?
what a laugh, good riddance you stupid bitch, best decision the site ever made kicking your stupid arse to the curb
What he's saying is that women who choose home births are selfish, dangerous, stupid, emotional, mentally deranged (mental misfire) and deserve to die etc etc. He elaborated on this general theme in other posts in the thread.
He has a habit of calling everyone with whom he disagrees 'psychotic'.
ROFLMAO!! You filed a complaint with the Human Rights Commission from being temporarily getting banned from a private Internet forum? Are you some form of lunatic?
HotCopper is a commercial business operation offering services to the general public. As such it is subject to federal legislation. The owners and managers would be grossly offended to think anyone regarded it as a piddly little discussion board - though it may act that way.
Here's an interview you might appreciate:
http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/beauty-feeds-a-different-kind-hunger-terry-tempest-williams
It comes from the top, as you can see. The mods are selected based on their "fitting in" with the revolting culture.
I tried and probably could have done better to expose them.
I leave these articles as a cautionary tale for all decent, normal women and men in Australia and New Zealand.
You may have seen my experience with one of the mods appointed since I left. Hisbehaviour was creepy in the extreme. (My article was deliberately "out there" and provocative, but the comments from P2W have to be seen to be believed. And that was mild, compared to some of what is encouraged at HotCopper itself.
BTW, sorry for the late post. For older articles comments automatically go to moderation and I only just checked.
There are some really nice people at HotCopper, despite the appalling behaviour of a few, and particularly the appalling behaviour and gross attitudes of the management and moderators.
All the best. Come visit again :)
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fizz
Date:
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women...???
i am of the opinion that only males are members of HC
if you are female pls respond
lets do a count....
Then ljsilvers post straight afer
LJsilver
Date:
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A decent percentage of HC users are female. I know this because admin have stated it at times.
Of that percentage, a very large percentage would likely only read up on stocks, so wont see your post.
Of those that do see your post, a large percentage do not post, only read.
So I'm guessing you wont get a huge response.
And whats with 'ladies only'? Understand this is not twitter or facebook.
No one gives a toss what gender you are here. No need to form a club.
Regards,
Arrogant male.
I really wish they would delete me as I am embarrassed that I associated with them. Poor Fizz I hope she learns before she is permanently damaged